Working with college students all these years, this is the number one question we get asked. Most Christian singles have been taught to seek a dating relationship (and someday marriage) that’s Christ-centered, but the church rarely defines what that actually means.

In my experience, most people define a God-centered relationship by outward activities. They they want to pray with the person they’re dating, do a Bible study together, maybe even serve together. Those things are all wonderful in their places. But I don’t think any of those things by themselves ensure a relationship centered on God.

Whatever you do or don’t do, a relationship centered on God can only happen between 2 people who are living their lives centered on God. So to have a Christ-centered dating relationship, YOU need to be focused on pursuing Christ, loving Him more and more every day, seeking Him in the Word, through prayer, through your relationships. And HE – the guy you’re dating –  needs to be focused on pursuing Christ, loving Him more and more every day, seeking Him in the Word, through prayer, through his relationships.

The only guarantee for a God-centered relationship is 2 people who separately are centering their lives on God. Read more